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Originally Posted by mcl6136
don't get thrown off track by bad Ts who say you're nitpicking or "hyper aware" as a way to shift the burden. I went through that recently. I noticed early on that when I was "hyper aware" of how well therapy was going (which it sometimes was...) and went into great detail about how it was working, the detail orientation was welcome....however, when I held T to the same high standard about where it had gone wrong, I was told I was hyperaware. Seems hard to have it both ways. What's wrong with a little rigour here, after all? T is expensive....it should hold up to some level of scrutiny, it seems to me. Ts who call critical clients "hyper aware" just need to sprout a pair, in my view. Sorry to be a buzz kill....I am having a bad hair day, I guess.
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Whoa, it is a bad hair day (I've had few of those myself lately!) But in my opinion, being hyper-aware or nit-picking or whatever is not a bad thing, but rather should all be grist for the therapy mill.
I mean there is a reason behind everything right? The way I see it, therapist definitely make mistakes, clients make mistakes - misinterpretations, miscommunications, over sensitivity, fear, mistrust, anxiety - it's all part and parcel for therapy.
We have every right to disagree with our therapists and they can certainly disagree with us and our interpretations of things. Sometimes we are right, sometimes they are right.
Whatever the case, we are in therapy to learn and explore ourselves. The therapist is the catalyst and the vehicle to help us do that. It's all about learning to trust the intent and the relationship as a whole.
If it comes down to being contemplative and wrong or miserable and right, i'll chose wrong any day. It's not just about picking your battles, but understanding why you fight in the first place.