So sorry to hear it - I hope you know that his opinions aren't the last word, and you doubtless have much to offer for the right person.

I also won't give you stupid platitudes, but I can tell you a little story. After years of crazy relationships and hypo/manic indiscretions and all kinds of ugly in the significant other department, I gave up. I just stopped looking. I decided that there's more to life than that and I don't need someone else to validate me as a worthwhile person. My life and outlook improved a lot the moment I decided that I didn't need someone else, even if I wanted that companionship. It was like a proverbial weight was lifted.

Not long after that, I met my husband. Neither of us was trying too hard for a relationship - we just let it happen, but it was almost instantly obvious that it was a good thing. He was patient with my out-of-control life and I was patient with his reluctance to be vulnerable in a relationship. We both waited a long time and put up with a lot of painful relationships before we found each other. Neither of us is perfect, but we're better together, so it's easy to put in the work to keep a healthy relationship because it really pays off.

Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person to keep you company for the long haul. It sounds like you know what you need in a relationship, and that's truly invaluable!