Ok, there is something your all missing here but madisgram figured it out. One thing that happens to many of us and is really prominent globally now is a lack of structure. Someone can go to college and learn a lot about a lot of things and some people end up becoming professional students or even teachers, why? Well, the answer to that is that when we are in these environments, they actually provide us with structure and we do find comfort in that kind of atmosphere.

Human beings thrive on structure and even if we are presented with struture that isn't the best structure, if we can build our own personal structure within that structure we become less stressed and happier. Even a clique of people can exemplify a structure and those individuals hang in there because it offers a structure and in that we find comfort.

Venus, Social Phobia, you are more capable than you realize. Some of our very successful leaders had Social Phobia. If I think about America alone Washington, was a man that most likely had Social Phobia and he was no socialite but he was a proven human being when it came to getting something done. One of the things that you say a lot is "SOMEBODY HAS TO DO IT" and I would have to say that Washington recognized that too. Now Washington didn't really want to be President but he did take on that job and did fine, but he was not by any means a socialite. But what he did have is access to those that had that capacity at his disposal and he did use those individuals to fulfill that capacity that was needed in government.

Another man that was a successful President was Ronald Regan and Ronald Regan was not a socialite Venus, he was well respected but he actually had no real close friends other than his wife. And he wasn't even the best father, but he was a great delegator and the one thing that people with Social Phobia have is a strong desire and skills for oranizing thoughts and plans and their comfort zone is in leadership and practicing what they know, giving speaches and certain interactions where they have a definite agenda, however when it comes time to lower down to a social level they monitor that very carefully. And to be honest is not even because they consciously know they have Social Phobia, however they do work around that. So don't sell yourself short. If you really think about your strong points like running a project, you did do it, because that is something you can do. Basically the social end that revolved around that is probably what took the most out of you. Now if you really think about it Venus, structure is actually your comfort zone when it comes to dealing with people, if your in charge of the structure and you have a definite plan for that structure. Think about your blog or whatever, that is your structure and you do fine with that.

So basically what we all thrive on is STRUCTURE and where we get lost is in learning how to provide our own structure. And we are supposed to learn this when we are young but that is not happening in families anymore, not the way it should be happening. And as far as our global condition, the reason why there is so much concern amongst the different societies is because the structure is failing in different ways and it effecting the personal stuctures in individuals world wide.

And Vibe, it is not so much that your learning or even taking difficult a course that is challenging you, what is really being challenged is your capacity to structure this learning course into something you can realistically manage.

I have talked about the power of doing something small and how that can fan out in a big way. What that means is that when someone picks something that is on a smaller scale they can actually present a structural way addressing that small situation. The reason why it can fan out is because if there is a reasonable workable stucture that is manageable and productive,well, that is something people will accept, gravitate to and utilize in other areas.

When we go and get an education we learn to learn and we are in a strutured class revolving around a subject that we are trying to learn. However I am sure you will recognize that if a professor or teacher is poorly stuctured in his teaching style no one is really happy and sometimes it can be a real waste of time to take that course from that professor. UNLESS someone can take the information and structure it on their own, which is not something everyone can readily do.

Okami, you have a lot things you would like to do in life and you haven't found a direct path to these things. But you have found something you say is temporary that your are enjoying and it is also helping you with some of your personal struggles with perhaps direction. This dog grooming or whatever it is has a structure to it and you like that, you may not have been able to be exposed to that before other than a school like structure. And though it may not be your life long dream, your learning something important, structure, how to have business that has a structure.

And when we talk about anxiety and depression and even what may appear as mania, what does that mean? Well, if we do not have structure in our lives and only dip in and out of different structures we feel very unfulfilled and anxious. And even depression is a struggle because somehow there was no real base for understanding any kind of structure or how to actually have structure on a personal level so perhaps depression is the only structure we can muster, ofcourse not truely consciously recognizing that.

One of the theraputic methods being used a lot is COGNITIVE THERAPY. Hmmm what does that mean, why does it help so much? It helps us because we form bad structures to our daily lives even in dealing with others and how we perceive other people and receive certain messages. Cognitive therapy is in itself structure for a better way to receive thoughts and interactions of others and to structure our responses and how we allow ourselves to feel about our responses.

Even meditation, there again is another stuctural method of learning how to relax and add that into our days. Even organized Faiths, again structure and people love and are drawn to structure. It is our design for existance.

So think about your question again Vibe and not if all this mountain of courses you have chosen is worth it. What you have to ask yourself is where is the stucture? Because if you cannot stucture this heep of a program, than what are you learning?
Sure, you may get through it, ok, even do ok and pass it but what is that going to do for you if you cannot structure that into something else in your life?

Statistically when someone retires their life span only lasts a couple of years. Why?
The people who live longer are the ones that structure their lives after they retire.
We have a young generation growing up to take over and where is structure? And I am not so unhappy about the fact that people are leaving that living high on the hog entitled atmosphere that has been going on for a while and now busted. Because that generation of offspring are one group of very entitled individuals that are not really privy to structure. Oh, perhaps the structure of opulance and possessions and false securities but not a whole lot of structure. No wonder they are so lost. Think about it, high divorce rates, woops don't know working relationship structures in parents. Oh the structure of going to school and doing homework and video games?
No real structure of working around the home and producing a working garden or other things, and many youths didn't really work, mom and dad or what was left of them supplied the spoils.

Here are two examples of successful entrapenuers, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs, how much time did they spend in college or school? No, they didn't do that did they, no, they took ideas and built structures, small, to bigger to worldly.

Something to think about before you sell yourselves short. Both comfort and sense of accomplishment comes from the ability to achieve structure. Geez, even animals thrive on structure, even insects. So, Vibe, that is what you truely need to think about for your life and a true sense of self worth and fulfillment.

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