I think for me, one thing that has helped is hearing T say the words out loud back to me. I remember once I said "I think it's my fault that my brother is a drug addict" because of one thing that I did in early childhood, and T said "you think that your brother is a drug addict because of this one event?" and when I heard him say it out loud, I realized...NO. Just that one moment transformed that belief.

Other things are harder. I had a core belief that I was unlovable. I still struggle with it. For me, talking about it...looking at where it came from (is there something unlovable about me, or were the people around me unable to love?), looking at the messages I tell myself about it...and allowing a different experience to happen (love from T, letting myself notice love from others) is slowly slowly changing that belief.

I told T today I wish there was one magic thing that would make things like core beliefs and triggers just STOP. Wow, do I wish that. But it seems like, for me, patience, work, openness to the idea of believing something else, and willingness to be vulnerable were all a big part of it.

((((((RTS))))))!!!