I understand why its shocking. I was dumped by my T of 7 years out of nowhere one night. I still don't know why exactly. It was so hard and took me a long time to get over it. I have to say though it sounds a bit unprofessional and out of bounds for him to be saying that he wants you to come to stuff with him, and that you two can be friends...that really isn't appropriate in most cases. You can get over this shock and the sadness of all this... you totally are strong enough to do it. And I definitely understand being afraid to open up to a new T. Maybe its just too soon right now. After losing my Ex T I didn't want to either, and it took over 2 years b efore I was ready to even think about having a new T. Now I am glad I took the chance and found a new T as she is wonderful and even better than ex T, but it took a while for me to be ready to trust someone new.