billi, your therapist may very well be uncomfortable with you. it sounded like you got in to see her almost as a favor to your other doctor; she is the head of her agency, so she has more responsibilities than the "average" therapist; and instead of being grateful for, and understanding of, these two "introductory" conditions, and factoring them into your getting to know her, you totally judged her for being late to your first appointment. Maybe she totally judged you for how you reacted to her being late, in terms of, this may not be a person I can work with. She overreacts and is not aware of it, or why. She blames the other person. She has some insight, but only after the fact. I am not sure, but now that you mention it, I think I have had this happen to me, where there is a long wait before the first session with a new T. I DO think they size you up for it, even the receptionists.

I was somewhat taken aback by your statement that you have a "right" to therapy. You have a right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Some therapists are saying they "don't 'do' borderlines". Do they have that right? What happens when these rights conflict?

What if people ARE trying to let you down easy, so as not to hurt your feelings, would that be so bad? But you see it as a missed opportunity to defend your right to whatever they have, that they are denying you access to. You don't have a right to EVERYTHING, automatically.

You have to earn acceptance. There are rules. We didn't learn them at home. The only rule I learned at home was, I LOSE. There was no acceptance. I think your home was like mine. That's why Doc John's first rule HERE is support - we are all accepted. Although even here you kinda have to earn your way onto the playground, but eventually you make "friends". You have many friends here. Surely you can charm the outside world as you have charmed us, with the softer side of billi, not the "right" side. Cuz I know I like the side I see here.