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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
The problem with depression, as I'm sure you well know, is that it's extremely debilitating. It also takes a huge toll on the emotions, making you question how you really feel. I can easily understand how someone, especially someone that tends to keep things to himself, wouldn't want to share how depressed he's really feeling. Not to mention, we're still battling stigmas surrounding mental illness, medications, and therapy.
I'm a little curious about your ages, and whether or not either of you work. It just surprised me to see how much time he spends sleeping and alone holed up in his room. If you two are at an age where modern society expects him to have a job (ie, not retired, etc.), perhaps that's another problem he's dealing with -- not feeling like he can provide for you. I know it's the 21st century, but from where I'm sitting, a lot of guys still have this ideal in mind where they take care of their families/women financially.
Also, it seems like he's at his best in the morning. My fiance is the same way. He feels like he can be productive in the morning, but the later on in the day it gets, the more depressed he gets, and the less he accomplishes. But with this is mind, perhaps you could encourage him to take walks with you, maybe before his shower, or right after. When it gets cold, you could go to a mall and walk around or you could get a gym membership at a gym that has an indoor track.
Good luck! Sending warm thoughts your way
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I agree. I can understand why he'd keep things to himself. Like I said, I've had depression for years and understand with all my heart how horrible it is. The only thing that's different is that I've been in therapy for a long time and he hasn't. For me, opening up (even if it's hard) helps. I just thought it might help him as well. I took everyone's advice though and told him I wouldn't nag him about it anymore, unless it's something serious.
We're in our early 20's, both unemployed at the moment. Right now, I'm unable to work, but he'll be looking for a job shortly. I know that that is one of his stressors. He is not looking forward to holding down a job (hates, hates, hates working) and I think he feels a lot of pressure from it. I'm not sure whether it has anything to do with providing for us though. It's a possibility though.
That's an interesting thing you pointed out and you're right. He does seem to be at his best in the morning. I think it'll be difficult to get him up and moving around, but I think if we can make it fun, we'll both enjoy it and it won't be some boring, terrible chore. I think that would really help his mood as well as his sleeping habits.