Thanks FleeingFox.

Yep, my brother is a selfish fool, I have to agree.

I'm a little scared. He refuses to help my dad, so it's going to be up to me, and I've always had other people do the really important things. Like, my dad wants to sell his farm because it's become too much work for him, and my brother refuses to help because he insists dad's going to sell it to an acquaintance for a lot less than it's worth. I don't know the first thing about selling a farm. I hate the idea of seeing those 20 acres of hay fields being turned into subdivisions with McMansions or cookie cutter houses. If I could do it, I'd move down there and take over the place. It's the one constant I've had all 44 years of my life.

My mom and stepdad are going to help as much as they can. My stepdad is going to take him out on the road trucking for a week or so, and I'm going to meet my mom at my dad's and we're going to start hauling some of the clutter out of the place.

And my therapist wonders why I care about trying to have an amicable relationship with my ex? It's what I grew up with, watching it with my mom and my dad.