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Originally Posted by treehouse
Other things are harder. I had a core belief that I was unlovable. I still struggle with it. For me, talking about it...looking at where it came from (is there something unlovable about me, or were the people around me unable to love?), looking at the messages I tell myself about it...and allowing a different experience to happen (love from T, letting myself notice love from others) is slowly slowly changing that belief.
I told T today I wish there was one magic thing that would make things like core beliefs and triggers just STOP. Wow, do I wish that. But it seems like, for me, patience, work, openness to the idea of believing something else, and willingness to be vulnerable were all a big part of it.
((((((RTS))))))!!! 
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Thanks so much Tree for sharing... I too have a similar core belief...that somehow I am defective and unloveable... I find that even when someone tells me that they love me...in my head I say things like "they are just saying that", etc... My mother used to tell me she loved me too...that kind of love I don't need...
ughhh..."the willingness to be vulnerable" is so hard and does not come naturally... I think willingness to walk across hot coals in bare feet would come more naturally for me...
It is going to be work...just to be aware of how I'm thinking or feeling...But it just feels like this is the root of a lot of my issues so I really want to do this...
It was helpful to read another post on the "inner child" and at my T. suggestion I found a picture of me at 5 years old. I forgot how little and young a five year old is...