Wow - that does sound like a hard situation to be in. I have similar trust issues and have been seeing my T for 18+ months. I was worried about sharing things and T said that it wasn't for me to be worried about him, he has close supervision and therefore has support to deal with any issues that may be triggered for him.

I know it can be so hard to build up to a level of trust, but I know for me if I felt that some things were out of bounds for T to hear because the potential for them to trigger him, that it would be really hard to continue with him as my therapist. Firstly I would question his robustness and second how can therapy continue if you can only tell half of your story and thirdly this should be totally about you and you should not be given cause to be concerned about your T.

Yes it may be the case that something happened to her - I am aware that some people become T's because they have worked through stuff themselves, however for them to then go on to work with clients themselves they need to be able to hear what is said and in my opinion if they can't and this may be detrimental to continuing work with clients, then they should make that known and maybe suggest another T who would be able to deal with this work.

It should not be your role to protect your T, your T should protect themself - famous last words as I am a real coward when I am with T - but I think you should have an open conversation with T and explain your concerns and your need to have a T who can work through this stuff with you.

Good luck

Soup