Try to take it easy, Downfall. Relax. No one is forcing you. No one is pushing you. You have all the time in the world to say "no" if that's what you decide. You can be nice to the guy and still keep a wary eye out that examines what he says and does very, very carefully. Just remember, you're in control, not him. Of course, you won't agree to go into any dangerous situations with him. Feel free to refuse whatever you don't feel comfortable with. The simple fact that he's asking you out doesn't give him the right to force situations on you that you're not comfortable with. Stay within your comfort zone. You have the right to insist on that, whatever he does. Keep in mind, just because he pays for something, whatever it may be, dinner, drinks, movies, doesn't give him any right to your further company or any physical encroachments on your private space. I could easily be your Dad and I'm writing this from that perspective. Take care!