I'm new, but glad to have found this forum. I'm not quite sure what to do. I recently started dating a beautiful lady whom I've known for over a year. Right around the time we met she had recently lost her fiance of 10 years to a sudden heart attack.

We were just friends as we worked in the same building and saw each other outside on occasion for smoke breaks or over lunch hour. Anyway, about 3 months ago we started dating. It was as if we'd known each other our whole lives. We hit it off immediately and were inseparable for the first 6 weeks.

That's when it hit her! The one year anniversary of his death. Since that weekend 3 weeks ago came around she has been grieving. Everyone tells me to just give her time and space and she'll reach out to me when she's ready.

I had given her my pinky ring to wear (which she did until 3 weeks ago) and I have a few belongings at her house. Last week she told me that she just couldn't do this; it was too soon, etc. She said she was going to bring my things to me as she couldn't replace him with me and it wasn't fair to me, etc.

I told her that we were friends first and that I would give her time and, as always happens with us she finished my sentence. She said, "And I'll reach out to you." I hugged her and then I told her to hold onto my things. She is.

Am I doing the right thing? Do you think time and space is all she needs to realize in her mind that it's okay to move on? Her friends really like me and they knew her and her fiance. They have accepted me. So, is it just my impatience playing tricks on me and making me have doubts? I mean, there are many good signs and I know she is grieving. I'm just confused because I miss her so much.

Sorry this was long and thanks for any help and encouragement.