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Originally Posted by delicatefade26
Thanks beautiful.mess...do you think you will ever bring it up with your T? did you/do you feel like you are hiding something from T? did it get in the way of the session? (you don't have to answer these-I guess I'm just trying to picture how I will feel if I don't say anything)...and that's a great question I need to ask myself...is it the healthy thing to do? Also-and if this gets to close and you don't want to say...was your T not upfront or truthful about there being an emergency-or was the issue more that you didn't hear it from him and had to learn it from his receptionist? and thanks for  I'm starting to calm down actually... |
Well, I simmered for DAYS after I "found out".....listen to me, I sound like someone who just found out her boyfriend was cheating LMAO....ugh. I do feel OK about it now. I don't feel the need to talk to him about it; at least not now I don't.
Initially, he called me to tell me directly over the phone. But I was in the bathroom getting ready to leave for my session and didn't hear the phone ring. He didn't state the reason in the voicemail for the emergency, just that he had an emergency and had to cancel last minute, he apologized and said he'd be in touch. And that was it. A week went by and I got frantic by that point. So, when I called, the receptionist said the reason he was gone and told me the day of the week he'd be back. I was like,
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I learned that I need to just trust him a little bit and not jump the gun next time an emergency comes up. I will probably need to remind myself that he has a very good reason for having to take off last minute, that it's not personally about me, and that it's not always feasible or even necessary for me to know the details. I will need to trust him that he won't forget about me and will call me back as soon as he can.
I did tell him (jokingly) when I saw him at that next session that since he forgot to say in the message when he'd be back that I was confused as the week went on and that I thought it was his off the wall, out of the box method for terminating me....ha ha, hehe, or that maybe he forgot about me....and when I said that he looked at me like I was wearing a toilet seat on my head; like it was THE MOST ridiculous thing in the world that it could even be possible for him to forget about his clients. But I never told him I called, or what the receptionist said. As I said though, I'm OK about it now (really and truly).
Therapy sure is an eye opening experience, that's for sure.
