I know how you feel. I sometimes feel like I cant have enough orgasms/sex. My hubby has no libido, and mine is unnaturally high. I even can get impulsively angry and snap on him if he says no. Its not even about feeling undervalued (which I do, but only after getting rejected alot), its about the fact that I want to have sex every single day. Possibly many times. And I dont get it. Masturbation isnt the same. It just isnt.

As far as your significant other sleeping with someone else, even if it is 1000 miles away: that is another problem all together. First, you feel like you arent connected with the person you want to be (read: rejected), then they cheat (so obviously, they wanted sex, just not with you), then they arent even sorry about it. That can be heartbreaking (ive been through similar). I hope these things get better for you. And I agree about the counselling. It can help alot.