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Originally Posted by delicatefade26
hmm I'm just trying to wrap my head around all of this-I guess because I'm in the midst of doing this type of work as a part of my therapy...I get that some do not see the value in the separation and the use of "me and her", but it honestly has been healing for me and I feel I almost have to defend this technique-and I wish that I could have T help me to explain-or if I even had the right words for how it is when she is in the room or what we are doing to facilitate all this, but ultimately if I decided if it's working for me and T can do it in a way that provides safety, space and knows what he is doing...I'm okay with it-she is okay with it too  |
HI delicatefade,
thanks for sharing that you are doing this work and that it is helpful to separate the two - yes it appears that there are people on both sides as far as this is concerned. As I have said elsewhere I have major trust issues, many of these going back to me as a child, so I have been thinking that the reason why I do not feel comfortable separating the two, is because it may make me ("her") fell terribly vulnerable - I am much more comfortable thinking in terms of memories - so maybe I have some way to go in the trust department. Also I feel I have been able to "reinvent" myself and really hate that time in my life, I hate "her" and really don't want to have anything to do with "her" - I have read that for some, their "inner child" dies and I think that is what I hope for.