To me, BP, it sounds like your sister has been running from life itself for a long time. You mentioned she has always partied and drank a lot. We know really happy people do not do that. She may have been avoiding the family because she has been avoiding all of her issues.

Now, on the other hand, I have a relative who mostly ignores me and I went through a lot of pain wondering why and even trying to get him to communicate with me. I realized one day that he has very little contact with most of us and I think because he cannot face his family of origin issues right yet. After I realized that I didn't feel so hurt anymore as I realized it was him with the bigger problem and not me.

Hope I make some sense. Not sure if this fits but it's all I have to offer right now. Take care.

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