Hello everyone , pls help by giving your advise:
My mother abused us even my late father from the time I was born.he later died from ehr abuse of bleeding ulsers, cancer and everyother disease of unhappiness. I suffereed eating disorders,operations everything horrible that comes with it.My sister is a recovered drug addict, now drinks and has horrible anger issues and lives with bad choices.My other sister too has never had a relationship for long and both sisters have severe anger issues.I know that their heart suffers.These are 'the goodies'that come with the abuse, as adults. 10 years ago I started searching for my meaning of life. I helped my dad in his last days , burried him and started out on a good life that I was deprived of all those years. Part of the exercise was to cut reduce contact with the evil source - my mother.Later in the last 2 years it was severing contact.The last time I gave her a Xmas present but I dont know if that will continue.
My sisters are stilliving sad lives (dysfunctional) lonely and overseas.they are in contact with Mother.Now one has senty me a mail with a diagnosis of mothers mental state and has asked me to pick up the phone and call mother so she wont be so lonely. I have had numerous converstaion with my sister telling her that I even get nauseous when I am in the same room as mother. Making my decisions to severe ties has made me find it in the bible that its ok to not look after my mother, and has made me strong enough to handle my mothers (dysfunctional) family remarks and comments and other people who come lose to judging me. I have forgiven her and continuosly pray for this but I get physically rattled when anyone questions me or doubts me about my actions. I have gone through so much and I choose myself and happiness over evereything now. My husband is right by myside supporting me. 1)Please , is it okay to tell my sistser that I am not tied to my mother anymore and to respect my choice .She (sister)may go ballistic and send me an official lawyers letter or there will be some consequences from here. or another way to handle this?THANKS

PS,If there are others in the same boat , can we stay in touch as buddy reference...No one understands but theres so much to learn.I have no yardstick for normal behavior and mean behavior due to this among many horrible situations.