Yes, me too.My 'experinece ' has made me find the most incredible kind souls.I am very kind and compassionate and always do a charity project , currently i cook and feed the homeless on saturday night. I help alot of people and I'm happy.
The confusion kics in when people who know my abuser (mother) ask me questions about her and actually feel they are being nice to me by remembering my mother.(yikes) some even try to make me see my mother as a Godly thing to do.Now heres where I draw the line!So in this new life I have I choose everything I do and feel. I just become stronger and stronger as I pray for this kind of help and strengh.
Im rambling.Im sorry.I think you're great in your approach
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Originally Posted by skeksi
This is SO well-stated!
I also feel like the abuse I experienced has shaped me in MASSIVE ways. On the other hand, I have recently talked about a lot of positive events from my history with my T to try to put things in perspective. I am able to see now that the abuse shaped me, but so did other things. And as a matter of fact, some of the ways the abuse shaped me are things I value about myself, like my sensitivity and compassion.
Your concern makes so much sense to me. I think the change that happens in T is often not about changing who we are, but how we see ourselves. It's a big risk to see ourselves more positively, after such negative experiences.
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