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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
sundano68,
Just a word of advice, if you do drink a lot of alcohol, you may be an alcoholic and as you said, there is other family that were, but that is common. Most people have some relative with a history.
I strongly recommend using the AA program to help you stop. Though you may be able to stop on your own that program is soooo supportive. You may find others that have had the same feelings as you and are further along in recovery and can help you.
Remember that alcohol, though it does increase the dopimine in the brain, is also a depressant and actually makes it harder for the brain to produce it's own dopimine.
So stopping drinking is just a start of a long road to allowing your brain to recover normal feelings of happiness.
Getting the help of a therapist is also a good idea. Often there is something bothering you that you may not even realize.
Open Eyes
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Sounds good, I think the first step I will try is to stop drinking, and when I find myself wondering why my girlfriend isnt talking to me that it's because shes busy, not because shes doing something else. I had a long talk with my girlfriends sister last night. We went for a walk, and I got to see what it's like on the other side of insecurity. I know her well, and she would never cheat on her boyfriend. She really likes him and doesnt have many friends. Anyways, her boyfriend was blowing up her phone saying things that I would say, but worse. For example "to go **** me" or "to leave him so she can be with me" or things like that, and also frequently hanging up. Those are things I wouldn't ever say, I'm not that bad. The point of the story is, I saw what insecurity does to the girl. I kept seeing her get sad and upset, and when I saw that kept thinking about my girlfriend. It really hurt, but it was a good thing, because now I see what I do to my girlfriend. Im going to give this a shot by myself first. I'm going to stop drinking, and watch what I say, and how I say things to my girlfriend. For once I have motivation. I just tell myself, If I don't stop drinking, and treating her like that, I will lose her. Last night I talked to her and she said pretty much the same thing. "show me" So I'm going to give it my all to show her. I just need to find some hobbies to keep occupied until I get a job or something. I will come back to let you all know how it goes if you want. My goal is to keep this motivation, and not have it go away in 24 hours and end up in the same spot, but like I said, if I go back, I lose the girl...