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Old Oct 17, 2011, 11:50 AM
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Sannah,

Thanks for the encouragement!


Learning1,

In the past (before therapy), if i was angry or hurt, I would: (1) try to tell myself that no offense had happened and there was no reason to be upset (I'm just being too sensitive); (2) make excuses for the person who had hurt me (they didn't mean it); and if that didn't work and i could not erase the hurt/anger, then (3) withdraw completely from the person and not have any contact with them anymore. I would not approach that person and let them know they hurt or angered me.

Now, if someone makes me angry or hurts me, I still find myself applying (1) and (2). But if I still feel upset after doing those things, and I think that i have a good reason for feeling that way (and if the relationship matters to me), then I hope that I would tell that person how I feel and attempt to understand the situation and work through it, and hopefully salvage the relationship.


Hi Unhappy Guy,

So sorry you're having to struggle with this diagnosis too. It is difficult!! We usually have some pretty ingrained cognitive distortions, like black and white thinking. Plus, we have to deal with very intense emotions.
Thanks for this!
learning1