I don't blame you for being skitterish about finding another T. It's tough enough to find one, without having had poor experiences. Perhaps you need to look in a different area, or way. IDK if you are USA or elsewhere... but going through the Psychological Association is probably the best for finding more even keeled therapists (imo.)

IMO you have already played out the "odds" of poor "therapists" and should be able to find someone who is truly empathic and expert. Good wishes!