Welcome to the forum, KathyLittle. I agree with you that the label Borderline Personality Disorder really doesn't describe the problem very well. I think that it has a lot to do with the actual "disorder" can look so different in so many people. I'm someone who has BPD who prefers to be alone. . . I need a LOT of alone time and if I'm in an intimate relationship, I tire of the relationship quickly because I feel as though I'm being suffocated. I don't push the person away with anger, I just sort of drift away

BUT the thing that I see in most people who have been diagnosed with BPD is the emotional dysregulation. Most of us feel as though we're riding an emotional roller coaster most of our lives--everything is fine one minute and a few minutes or hours later we might be in the depths of despair. I also think the self-loathing/feeling of worthlessness is also a pretty common trait in many people with BPD.

I know a lot of people also talk about a feeling of emptiness or loneliness. I have to admit that I've never felt that . . . or at least didn't feel it any more than my "normal" friends. But I have also learned that I compensate for this feeling by being over invested in work . . . in other words, I'm a workaholic and therefore avoid or deny the feelings of emptiness by frantically filling my days and evening with work. In any case, I too find myself frustrated with the whole label of BPD. . . although even if they change the name people will probably still say, "Yeah, she's diagnosed with Emotional Regulation Disorder . . . you know, BPD."