I've been going out with 'Sara' for almost 4 months. We both really care about each other. She's a good girlfriend and I enjoy her company, friendship, etc. However, Sara has a LOT on her plate right now. We both acknowledge that she may even be better off NOT in a relationship. But we would definitely not want to break up with each other because we do see a bright future ahead of us and we understand we just have to be patient now. Since Sara has a lot on her plate (let's just say she has a difficult home environment and had emotional problems stemming from a past relationship) sometimes she's not able to always give me the time I need. I might have phrased that wrong. Okay, she's a very good girlfriend overall but there are sometimes when she isn't a good girlfriend. My problem/question is this: I need to learn how to not take things so personally and understand that her issues are exactly that: her issues. I'm such a happy person but when I think too much about certain things involving this relationship it does get me upset. When I am in one of these moods I do blame Sara for causing me to feel this way yet after I get over it I realize I made 99% of the problem up in my brain. Does anyone have any tips on just thinking less about these problems? Thank you