I am finally very aware of this residual element to my BPD, and I AM really trying to work on it. I get very anxious, and I do avoid certain situations where I fear I might be rejected. I am working on my self-esteem and on my perceptions. I get very upset and somewhat depressed when someone obviously rejects me, but I am trying to learn to deal with it--with thoughts such as, "Well, that's THEIR problem! Not everybody is going to like me."

I am learning not to see everything as a possible rejection.....For example, if I don't hear from a friend for a day or two, then I figure she's busy. That's a big improvement from my old habit of panicking and trying to frantically get back in touch with her immediately!

BTW, as I've mentioned here before, after years of therapy and
two rounds of dialectical behavior therapy, I no longer am classified as having BPD! There is hope!!!

My T doesn't want me on this thread, so--bye and good luck! It CAN be dealt with!