Hi Ygrec, my family also, from the outside, looked like the perfect family. My mother was never abusive but she just wasn't capable of deep relationships with anyone. I sometimes felt my sibs, who were all adopted, were the lucky ones as they were in an orphanage and people who work in orphanages usually really love and care about babies and children. I do wonder if that is why my sibs are all more secure in their own skins than I am. sigh..