I agree with Fresia....I don't know why people are told to feel guilty if they aren't doing what others think is the right thing to do. The best gift we can give ourselves is to take care of ourselves first - or there won't be anything left to give to others. There's a lot of senior care services where a person can come in to the home a couple of times a week and help with light housekeeping and companionship. Sometimes tough love is the best love we can give. Good luck and take care of YOU!