in therapy i came to realize the many things i did were self-sabotaging. before that i'd say how did this happen? becoming an alcoholic, the same. drinking to avoid myself. sober for some time now. sometimes i'm even aware of self-sabotaging behaviors but would rather do that until it becomes unbearable for me to continue.
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We all get in our own way occasionally and some people do it repeatedly. Self-sabotaging behavior results from the same cause, a misguided attempt to rescue ourselves.
Are you sabotaging yourself? Some people drink, some procrastinate, others are just way too modest. How do you get in your own way?
1: Dodging Emotions: The Help That Harms
We often get into trouble trying to escape intense negative feelings.
Everyone does it sometimes. Some do it regularly—shoot themselves in the foot or put obstacles in their own chosen path. Behavior is self-sabotaging when in attempting to solve or cope with a problem, it instigates new problems, interferes with long-term goals, and unsettles relationships.
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"I Did All the Things I Wasn't Supposed to Do"
Self-sabotage is not an act, it's a process, a complex, tragic process that pits people against their own thoughts and impulses. Though we all make mistakes, a true self-saboteur continues to try to fix those mistakes by top-loading them with increasingly bad decisions.
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http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...e-enemy-within
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