Yea, too bad we didn't have the *bleep* sound, when we were children, as hurtful things were said to us. I'm sorry you experienced such things.

As children-- new to the world-- we look to the adults around us to affirm lessons we're trying to grasp. like-- "why are you so stupid?"... again and again... or hearing talk like-- "oh fins? heh, she doesn't need anything- she's in her own little world". (and thus-- left to her own little world)

Objective distance would have been such a tool back then indeed.....

alas, the lessons become ingrained and to get them OUT of the head is very hard work!
Some may be able to "let it go"(as you said)--
but I think,
most fight inner battles daily... and have to learn about the tools
they so needed but never learned of in their youth, as they were preoccupied with mere survival-- basic instincts.

best to you
fins