I've read through your very nice thread here for information that would help me on my quest, but you all seem to be ahead of me. Which makes this thread a great place to ask questions. The vast majority of you seem (I think) to have had sub-par Moms in one way or another, and (Big "AND") seem to be seeking out mother substitutes or at least people with maternal behavior. This is strange to me.

I feel none of that. When faced with mother substitutes or maternal behavior I head for the hills. The idea of T being a mother to me is pure HORRIBLE.

So why this difference? Why do some people with low-grade Moms keep looking for a good one and others run away? Does it have anything to do with what appears to be a very slight male participation in the thread?

Take care!