Getting in on this baby discussion. I had a stroke at birth and spent my first 6 months in the hospital (including a surgery for an organ prob). My therapist thinks that I lost this crucial time to bond with my mom, who had ambivalent feelings toward me because she was perhaps afraid to form an attachment to a baby that might die. I also missed out on cuddle time I'm sure. This was a really interesting insight for me - my current therapist is my 6th therapist over the last 18 years and no one else thought of it. It explains a lot, I think. My mom wasn't ready to be a mom anyway and had a difficult upbringing, but my illness certainly added to our difficultly bonding.