I have brought my rejection anxiety to the point that I completely stop myself from forming bonds, at an unconcious level. I really do not feel attachment to most people I can say I like. When I do feel some sort of bond is growing, and I KNOW, I know myself, I know that I'm black or white, I know I'm going to become completely dependent on the person, I just cut it off. I break off all contact with the person in a violent manner.
It's not the most functional thing to do, I realize. But it works for me, right now, it helps avoid breakdowns I know I can't handle.
Last time I allowed myself to be rejected I lost a year of school, drank every day, kept vodka under my cushion and self harmed intensely. I've been through nearly three years of therapy and still I am not over it.
Not gonna happen again!
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