Thanks Petunia but this was not intellectual either it was more like..I have 6 dollars and have to pay 1...only 1 of two bills...by next week...which would you choose....bill 1 or bill 2 and getting an answer of get a job ...ummmmm pay day would be past next week....maybe even weeks..,.this is the kinda thing I mean..Thats just an example but she wasnt intellectual or empathetic..its like she was on the moon