I have a male T. I'm not looking for a mom substitute (like you, ygrec, I would head for the hills. just the THOUGHT of seeing a female T completely freaks me out). I think I'm just looking for someone safe, who sees me.

But at the same time, there is what feels like parental transference. Not "mom" transference or "dad" transference. Just this big longing that someone will cherish me in a safe way.