Trippin'! NOT a bad daughter! I agree with the others that there are boundary and manipulation issues. She refuses to do what is needed (see a professional), and I agree that she needs to want to help herself, but.... hmmmm. Perhaps there is a way whereby it can all be pulled together to trip that off. Mwahahaha! Maybe I am mean, or maybe it is tough love(???), but what about you agreeing to come to her, but ONLY to take her to an appt. with a professional? She won't go, you won't stay. Period. She wants to see you, you want her to see a professional. It'd make her realize that she can't have one w/o the other, which provides a boundary for you, and holds her to a give and take. Tantrum? Yeah, probably(!) Tough **** to her. She needs to deal with the reality that she can't have a one-way street.

Curious to hear what others have to say about this too, in terms of whether it would be a healthy approach. (Hehe, because maybe it's not!)