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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
Okay. I'm in therapy. I've achieved some of what I think are pretty major insights. Now I'm led to understand that after insights comes "working through." Kind of chasing down all the ramified, neuron-like connections between the area affected by an insight and all the other parts of my thinking and feeling.
Well and good. But I very much want to conduct this "working through" in as energetic and concentrated a fashion as I used to get the insights. No nonsense. Complete seriousness. How does one do "working through" in that manner?
For example. I've realized that dear old Mom was a complete turkey at raising babies. With truly horrible effects. From the beginning until now, this instant, I'm terrified when dealing with people. Not you, you're safely far away. I can't see your faces or hear your voices. And that's very comforting indeed. But I'd like to be able not to see the people I meet IRL as terribly dangerous. And I understand "working through" is the way to get there.
Any tips?  |
there is no write or wrong way to work through something.
the wording "work through it" means the same thing in mental health as it does for say working through your finance problems.
you take it one step at a time, identify the problem, identify the cause, then figure out what you need to do about that problem and then do it.
you have identified the problem -
you have problems seeing people as dangerous.
you have identified the cause -
you feel your mother "was a complete turkey at raising babies. With truly horrible effects"
ok so now what do you want to do about this? do you want to confront your mother. do you want to find ways that will ensure you dont follow in her footsteps, be a better parent then she was, do you not want to do anything about this at all or do nothing about it. what do you need to do for yourself that will enable you to go on with your life and not have your mothers lack of parenting skills affect you and the rest of your life.
thats what working through things means. and people do this in many ways..
some people use -
confrontation
journaling
their creativity
gardening
taking their anger out in appropriate ways
talking with a friend
talking with their treatment providers...
the ways and how a person works through their problems are endless..
it all depends on what works for you.
my way of working through my problems is through running and being out in nature. A lot of times when I have to work something out I will go down to the lake and take my canoe out around the lake and let the natural setting and calmness of the lake help me figure out what I need to do about my problems and how I can move beyond that problem. I also have my therapist, my wife, my physician and my psychiatrist that I can go to, talk the problem out with.
