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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
But the war ain't over yet. Insight has to be followed by successful "working through," and for me at least that's just as much of an unknown country as my own infancy was six months ago. They say you have to get in touch with all those really bad feelings you had way back then, before you could talk, before you could think. I'm such a cognitive, left-brain person it's very hard for me to figure out how to do that. I've asked for advice, and I'll ask you too: How do you re-feel the feelings you've spent your life (and 75% of your energy) repressing in your personal dungeon?
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Speaking from my own experience, your feelings from the early stages of life will be reflected in your kneejerk, instinctive reaction to things. If one of the issues you suffered from is neglect, well, that is very difficult to deal with because there may be no events / memories to refer to. The effects of neglect are like having a ghost torment your soul because you act or feel a certain way because of an absence of parental attention / interaction / affection. There are feelings of emptiness. I have found existential therapy to be somewhat helpful. And, while emptiness is one of the feelings of neglect, I did not find Buddhist therapy of much help even though emptiness is one of its core beliefs. We have similar backgrounds; feel free to PM me if you have questions. All the best to you!