Hi Sannah. Thank you for the reply.

Good question, and yes he does remind me of someone from my past.

My Father.

My father was many things in life. Army (high up). Very high earner in work around the globe (oil), and published writer.
Dad was also (when I was born) older and very bitter and violent without thought of whom he caused mental anguish to.

There are similarities to this person who lives in my house. The only one being that this guy 'does not care about the harm he does'. This guy though has achieved nothing else yet in life. So I am finding it hard to see any good side to his persona. I have tried to help him loads this year, I have tried to tell him he has a lot to offer the world but (I realise now) its all been in vain.

I am aware of the root of my anger, I did not run away from home when I was 20 (and I did not see my family for 17-18yrs), only to find my self @ 40 being terrorised by a 30 yr old.

Yes he does remind me of growing up in what I call the "Micro - Totalitarian State". The home life ruled by a dictator.