something i just thought of about why i was so upset.one thing my husband can do that gets me really worked up is not talk to me or respond to something i am saying.when my T for 2 sessions didn't even say anything at all to me it may have set me off.usually if i am not willing to talk she will at least say something every once and a while.i don't know why she decided to not do this but it set me off.the only thing i can think of is that one of the things the mother would do all the time is refuse to talk to me or even acknowledge i exist forever.she wouldn't talk to me at all.not even the simplest comment.if she was on one of these kicks i could walk in a room that the family was in watching TV or something she would give me the strangest stare like who the heck am i but wouldn't say anything .i would just leave.this was the worst ever.she would do this forever.she would sometimes do this to my step dad also when she was mad at him.it was the silent treatment on steroids. maybe when T did this it was like being in that situation again and i was so convinced she was angry and all those feelings of being back then washed over me and i just couldn't handle it