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Originally Posted by sunrise
I am struck by your strong motivation. It sounds like you don't want to waste time or take a circuitous route.
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I can't. My mortality hangs over me like the traditional sword of Damocles.
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I would suggest talking to your therapist about her ideas for how to proceed. She knows you well and probably has some good ideas.
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Of course. I trust T and will be happy to do what she suggests. My only concern is that she seems somewhat unaware of all the recent (10-20 years) discoveries in developmental theory and related fields. I would have to guess that at least a significant part of my prior lack of success in therapy (many moons ago) was due to the great difficulty, amounting pretty close to impossibility, that my then T's had with pre-verbal, pre-memory psychopathologies. Traditional Freudians of course had a problem there. They couldn't stick me in an Oedipal cubbyhole. So much has happened in that regard over the past thirty years!
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Also, would you be able to give yourself permission to go slowly if you need to? If you try going fast and you aren't getting where you want to go, slowing it down might help. Sometimes a slower pace gets you to your goals more quickly.
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No problem. Whatever it takes. Faster or slower, but steady progress.
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There have been some times when my T was cautious about where we were going because he didn't want to hurt me or see me in pain. He needed some reassurance that I wanted to keep going that day... So try to keep on the same page as your T. Let her know if it's too fast or slow and see what she says.
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Sure.
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My T is a fan of "quick" therapies like EMDR for trauma. He says there are many trauma techniques and he's settled on doing mostly EMDR because of its speed. So you can ask your T about different routes to the same goal and which might be fastest or best suited for your personality.
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No problem. Though I must admit to a prejudice against cognitive behavioral stuff. And it's a strong prejudice. I really hate behaviorists. There's something, to me, personally offensive about their ideas. Don't know why.
Thanks! I just may need it!
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