good insight, granite. and it probably wasn't safe for you to talk at those times either to the mother. anything you said would have been "back-talk".

Now THAT'S Transference with a capital T. I wish you could see my handsome T giving me his James Bond look and saying, "I'm not granny!" when I put certain more obnoxious of the mother's transferences on him! So anyway, I guess that's why the "silent session" is such a classic scene in the movies and tv and whatnot - it really does accomplish a lot.

So nobody around you talks about feelings, now or before. So you must feel like a fool I still feel like a fool how do you even start, what do you say? There is SUCH a big difference between kids being raised today who are taught to express their felings, and certainly my generation. I was completely lost. I am amazed at what people write here about feelings and stuff, they are so eloquent, I feel like I just do a hit and run, and somebody else comes along later and explains what I meant. btw, thanks for doing that!