Keep in mind that she said "Of course" she wants to see you on Monday. And that those are kind and accepting words.

Keep that separate from your thoughts and worries that she is angry with you because that is coming from you, and not from her. When you begin to feel the fear that comes from her being angry with you, remind yourself that this is coming from your thoughts only.

Sometimes when we determine someone else is angry with us, and we have no 'proof' ** of that, it is because we are projecting our own anger. Our anger that frightens us very much, so we project it onto someone else and decide it is the other person who is angry. With that in mind, I wonder how much of your thought of her being angry with you might actually be a projection of your anger with her about the last session (or two).

** Something I learned in REBT was to demand proof that someone is angry with me and the proof is words. So I learned to ask myself for the 'proof' of the other person's anger. Where's the proof? Did they say it directly? If they didn't then I had no proof. If I had no proof, then I could get myself to reject the idea. If they were behaving toward me as if they were angry, I would tell myself that I would not respond accordingly - they would have to tell me they are angry and why. I would not engage in mind reading and guessing games. The only way to work something out is to get it out into the open, to be direct. I was not going to consider they could be angry unless they told me directly. That left me free to carry on even if they were acting differently toward me. That behavior was about them.


granite, these kinds of experiences in therapy, as awfully hard as they most surely are, give us information about ourselves that is priceless, that you and T together can look at and refer to, to learn more about you!