Thanks everyone
I didn't want to go into specifics but I guess I will.
'Sara' has a 1 year old child. The dad is not in the picture. I am more than willing to make sacrifices for Sara. Sara lives with her parents and the parents watch the child while Sara goes to work. The parents give Sara a guilt trip. Every moment of Sara's life outside of work the parents want Sara to watch the child at all times. As a consequence, I am always driving to her place. Which is fine. We don't spend that much 1 on 1 time together. It's always with the child. Which is fine. I understand what I'm getting into. We will plan some trips together just us two but at the last minute she makes me feel bad saying "I feel bad. I don't want to leave my child with my parents." She is upset the child likes her parents more and is worried she will be a bad mom. She feels guilty the child does not have a dad so she tries to be an extra good mom....Guys, I help out all that I can. When I go over there I am always helping with the child, watching her as Sara showers or eats. I'm there for her. I told Sara that I don't mind making sacrifices (and I don't make her feel guilty at all) but I told her every once in a while we need 1 on 1 time. I see a bright future for us. And I wouldn't even mind becoming the child's father down the line. It's just so frustrating.