I feel angry just reading about it. What is up with her? Why does she pull out the topic from time to time and throw you off-kilter like that?! Who says there has to be any discussion ahead of time about ending therapy? It's something to work through when it happens. No wonder you feel like she's pushing you away.

Her inconsistency would make me feel very un-grounded!

Now I have had discussions with my T about her feeling as if she needs to treat me with care, watch what she says, etc. At first it felt comforting that she was doing that, but then I realized that if she has to carefully consider much of what she says, that isn't the way I want my therapy to be. Her telling me, though, was so I could see my part in it and so we could learn from it together.

zoo, I am so sorry you are feeling very distraught. It's really hard to have to sit with something, to carry something from one session to the next, unresolved. I hope you can find some peace and know that you and T will talk more about this next time, and until then you have time to think about how you want to respond.