I wouldn't tell him about little things he might do that annoy me, because I believe as an adult I need to be able to tolerate minor variations in people's behavior that cause mild annoyance. But if it seems like a bigger thing, then yes, I have told him. Like he developed this habit of putting his open laptop right next to him on the couch while we did therapy. And sometimes he would glance at it. It just bugged me, triggered me, whatever. I didn't want him looking at his laptop during our session. I wanted his attention. I've had to mention it to him several times in order for him to stop doing it. It was OK telling him, but I was scared to do it. I made a bigger deal out of it than it was. He reacted fine, was not defensive or hostile or whatever I had feared. Sometimes he has said to me that there is nothing on the laptop screen so why does it bother you? And I've said, if there is nothing on the screen then why does it have to be sitting open right next to you? LOL. (I have indeed explained to him why it triggers me.)

Tigergirl, is your T doing something that annoys you?

I asked my T last time if my fidgeting bothered him. He said no, and he hoped I wasn't bothered by his fidgeting either. (I'm not, but he's not half as fidgety as I am.)