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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
I don't know about you or your T, but thoughts of suicide and being disliked seem to me to be just the kinds of thing that therapy exists for. As well as depression. A lot of this may have to do with your T's personality and professional views and convictions, rather than the specifics of your situation.
But in a sense, your T's views are irrelevant. It's YOUR views and priorities that count. If you feel a sense of urgency, I think your T should do whatever he can to accomodate that feeling. I certainly DON'T feel that you should be overrelying on what you think (!) are T's views. YOU'RE setting the agenda in every way, shape or form.
I don't think that anybody is SUPPOSED TO accomplish anything in therapy. Supposed by whom? T? Society? Psychologists in general? No. Uh-uh. Accomplishments in therapy are things YOU want to do and choose to do. T's contribution is what they call in Washington "ways and means." You OWN your therapy. No-one else. And if your therapy is successful (I think) you will NOT NEED further support from therapy. Touch-up jobs now and then, I'd suppose, when something you thought was a dead issue stirs to life again. But not just forever. That's MY view. Thanks, and take care!  |
Well, I just wrote something that might sound like the opposite on your other thread, but now that I read what you wrote here, I think you're right. I don't know. I agree that it's good if your t goes at a pace you want, if you really understand what you want I guess. Before, I wanted results but I wasn't comfortable enough to be open to talk about the stuff I needed to talk about with t. I did a little better today. I'm disappointed it has been taking this long, and there's a long way to go, and life is going by. But I'm trying to appreciate life as-is more, and appreciate what therapy can do, even though it's slow, because getting frustrated with its pace just makes things worse. Actually, now that I did that, I think I made a little progress today and I'm hopeful I can move along again. I was worrying that you were doing what I was doing- setting yourself up to get frustrated by wanting to go at a fast pace- but maybe you are actually in a really good place to make progress, or maybe you've learned how to do it better than I have.