You go to therapy. Regular people don't even know how to deal with their own regular issues, let alone someone else's that really do require training to understand the effects on people, and how to help them. Sometimes you need more than just a shoulder to cry on. So the people in your life can love you, but not know how to help you - it doesn't mean they don't care about you. They just don't know what to do or what to say. It IS up to you to go after the help you need - but like the song says, you need to look for this love and help in the RIGHT places. You don't have to be alone.