I believe that my current therapist is on my side, absolutely. I want to share the best thing that she's done for me - really one of the best things that anyone's ever done for me. I had a very difficult therapy relationship right before her. It was unhealthy, I became powerless (I take responsibility for my part in this), and because she insisted on using the same approach that clearly wasn't working for so long I moved backwards in some important ways (the child really flared up and got scared - still lingering effects now). The problem is that I didn't see all of this at the time, wouldn't allow myself to see it because I (the child part) was blinded by things like her hugs and when she told me that she loved me and became so dependent on her - gave up my power to her. So as I became closer to my current therapist (I started with her because I moved to another state for work), I started to see differences and feel more respected and like my feelings were OK, etc. Slowly what had been a childlike love for/attachment to my previous therapist dissipated and I became really angry. My current therapist proposed talking to my old one some. Then my old one and I met and that didn't go so great. So now my therapist is writing her a letter to share her approach with me and the growth that she's seen after our 14 months together. I feel like she's completely my advocate and on my side. This previous relationship really, really hurt me and because of the confines of post-therapy relationships, I'm not free to really talk to the old therapist about it. I did write her 6 months ago and then we met, but that's all that she's allowing. This to me shows that my therapist on my side. This situation has really torn me apart, in part because I gave up my power to and trusted someone who didn't have my best interests in mind and didn't really know what she was doing.