I think my T tries to be on reality's side, and tries to pull me over to that side. Usually it's not TOO hard because my family of origin was pretty UNreal, so coming over to the real side lately has been just self-affirming. OTOH, I don't do much - I have already flunked out of life, so there is not much left to be on my side about. I feel there is a lot he would LIKE to be negative about, but is afraid it would be counterproductive.