Hi. I am bipolar and have been surviving for nearly 17 years, and have had some good periods of stability, through very stressful situations, but the situation in my family right now is threatening my stability so much I'm scared. I have a husband with cancer, six years in remission, we think the cancer may be back. I have a 14 year old Biolar/ADHD daughter who has school phobia and has to go to school online at home. I go to school part-time at a local Community College, so I'm not always here to police her and when I do get home from lectures, and she is actually working, Dad is sleeping, as he takes three naps a day. Son, 21, just got engaged,college student. Had problems with marijuana and cocaine with him in the past, but he went to bootcamp and really straightened himself out. Found a bong in his room today. Apparently, he 'marijuana maintains' (whatever that might mean!)to control his anger. We also found a six-pack of beer in his room. Daughter, husband and i are in receovery from alcohol and told him the rules were no drugs and no alcohol in the house. Now it's free reign, right, because he just turned 21? Well, I am at my wits end. He pigs out his room and procrastinates about cleaning it.He and she have sex in their room and my daughter hears it. What do we do?! Kick them out into the streets?That would send me over the edge. There HAS to be another way.