Well, my T is totally on my side. I know this because she tells me nothing I want to hear unless it is healthy/correct but will tell me what I need to hear even if it is uncomfortable/(healthy) painful. The other way I know she is on my side is I continue becoming healthier in all aspects of my life. The biggest one: she doesnt co-sign my crap. Example: she will ask me how I am feeling and I will say I dont know. She will sit there in silence until I check in with me and really see. If she wasnt on my side/didnt care I dont think that growth would happen.